tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4139741574793053782.post7516891212622336937..comments2023-05-11T05:16:40.517-04:00Comments on Big Hips, Big Dreams: They Give Me FeverTina Tasselshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03368511583760490338noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4139741574793053782.post-81708794563987277592014-11-03T21:28:50.466-05:002014-11-03T21:28:50.466-05:00hi there, so i have questions for you, since i ho...hi there, so i have questions for you, since i hope we all can help each other sort out relationship issues. i'm trying to see enjoyment in the questions themselves, but it's not always that easy. over the years, i realize some men really really really do lie. like flat out. to themselves and whoever is around them. and have no issue or hesitation in doing so. i mean major lies, like blatant refusals to admit what is obvious and sitting in the middle of the room. "no that's not blue it's green" when it's clearly blue, style of lies.... or fabricating a story, for the sole purpose to make a woman jealous, when there was no need for it in the first place. (isn't there enough to think about in a new relationship without adding to it?) that's just sheer wanting to poop on someone else’s joy but i've learned that even the ones who seem progressive, sensitive, artsy, intellectual, etc.. they do this. i swear hipster men are evil. ok, not evil, just very messed up in the head. why do they get away with it... do they not realize that women find this offensive… do they really feel so entitled that they take these risks? maybe too many people in their lives, including their female friends, relatives etc, enable them to act this way and dont call them on this...<br /><br />or how they seem unwilling to end one relationship before starting another or say TWO others. will blatantly deny it, if confronted too. “i was just flirting” or some other minimizing comment. <br /><br />why is there such a double standard of women having to be 'devoted' or faithful. ive decided there is no way to confront these topics without coming across as unpleasant and it seems like a waste of time trying to explain why its not cool. <br /> <br />on that same note..<br /><br />i have wasted much time, trying to prove how loyal i am. trying to do the right thing: “i’ll be strong for both of us to create trust”… and by instilling this loyalty, it would make for a better relationship. but it backfires… <br /><br />do men actually want to see that women are still playing the field for as long as possible ..the way men do? it finally registered that maybe half of their fun and joy was seeing how they measure up to the other men she’s looking at..., and could there be some competitive factor in there that is appealing to them? a bit weird to realize that their image of themselves (in the eyes of other men) could actually be some kind of a buzz for them. is that ewe? or just a reality to have to accept? i honestly don’t think women are this twisted, except in soap opera dramas. so in this sense, the males are the drama makers, not the woman. really tired of them projecting all that. <br /><br />i understand a need for individual people to save face and not feel embarassed by their shortcomings, but.... men pride themselves on being direct, unafraid of confrontation, strong, so there is a big dichotomy here PSnoreply@blogger.com