Tuesday, February 12, 2013

The Casualties of Being Casual: 3

Almost a year to the day and I'm still callin the same booty. I must be frustrated because I was so annoyed with him last week.

It's such an interesting relationship we have. Frankly, I don't know if he's sleeping with anyone else, I wouldn't be surprised, but I don't care. I haven't seen him in some time though. About 4 months actually. Strangely enough we've kept in touch. I figured he'd disappear like the rest but nope, he still calls and we have real phone conversations. The thought of dating him makes me shudder though. I know I'd be over it REALLY fast.  We are very different people when it comes to the things that matter.

Anyway, this dude does NOT like changing his ways, not even for me, his white girl lover. He works, plays bass, smokes weed, practices tae kwon do, works more and does not budge. Some night ago, I had an empty apartment - a rarity - so I invited him over. His "can't wait" enthusiasm, being that it would be his first time seeing my place, quickly turned into a "wish you woulda told me sooner, I need to practice for my gig". I was fuming. It was definitely a "why don't you fuck your bass" situation. I told him I was annoyed and we had about an hour phone conversation. I came very close to hanging up on him though.

I don't know if I'm feeling needy (read: pretty H word), but I need some manttention. I still haven't uploaded a pic or finished my profile on OkCupid either. What is my problem!? I need to clarify, I'd like someone interesting and that I find attractive to spend some time with. I'm not an anyone will do kinda gal!


Ciao for now,


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  1. I guess that's why we women are programmed to snag guys into relationships...because we know that unless we strike some sort of bargain with them, we'll usually end up irritated."Shafted" if you will.

    How come you're booty callin' and not finding yourself a nice man who wants to make fun of reality shows on a Sunday morning with you? (Yes, I am a total stranger...but a really curious and interesting one, you minx you.)

    1. I like you Therese! Thanks for reading - welcome :)

      It's so interesting that naturally I'm wanting my booty call to take me out to dinner but I have NO desire to have him as my boyfriend. I don't want to take him to parties or weddings or anything that really matters with him but I'm lacking that attention and I'm ultimately wanting it from him because he's the only one present.

      As for finding myself a nice man, I'm sure if I knew exactly where to look I might be taking a peek, but I'm weary of this "commitment" thing, I just want attention ha!

  2. first of all Oy bass players , second of all I love that you know what you want and aren't settling , your a smart cookie it won't be long ;) XOXO

    1. Hopefully it's a happy accident in Vegas one random night ha!!