Friday, August 14, 2015

Bottom Line

In an effort to maintain the confidence - in mind, body, & spirit - that I work so hard for I've decided to part ways with my (on&off) boyfriend of 3 years.

I choose to keep my private life private, but decided to share with a vain belief that perhaps it might influence someone in my situation to gain the necessary strength it takes to move on from such a life.

I will never air anyone's dirty laundry as that is not conducive to moving forward. I will say that when dating an addict there comes a time (in my case a 2nd round) when you must accept that you can no longer help someone if they do not want to help themselves.

I am deeply in love with someone that cannot accept it. If I stay any longer I am only enabling and that is the bottom line.

Please don't ask me questions, but I would love to hear your stories. I hope to preserve a safe space here where we can come together and share.

I'm sorry it's been almost 5 months since you've heard from me. I have been thoroughly enjoying my life with some really exciting things to look forward to. I hope you are all well.

Ciao for now,



  1. I want to pop your head off with a hug. In my case letting go completely was the best thing for him. He's been sober now for over a year, remarried, beautiful new house and he's happy. Like, truely happy. He probably hasn't experienced this kind of genuine happiness since he was a tween. His happiness and sobriety makes me happy and I know I did the right thing for the both of us. Love you, miss you, see you soon xo